Have you ever felt unpretty? Like sang that TLC song to yourself? Only difference would be you were not dancing to it at a party or trying out new moves in the privacy of your room; you actually felt like that. Why? Probably because you didn’t achieve something you set out to, some things changed  for you (physically, emotionally, psychologically), or maybe it was even someone who made you feel that way.

Let’s state for clarification purposes that I have NEVER supported same-sex relations, however backward, close minded, or uncivilised that might make me sound. One of the goals of an education is to be able to realize that everyone will not agree with you all the time, having the serenity to accept that, and still be able to relate with them. Ok? So if you’re not educated I would respectfully ask you to close this page. Otherwise note that the disclaimer is because of Christina Aguilera’s ‘beautiful’ video embedded in this post. While I do not agree with certain portions of the video, the lyrics and general message are the most compelling support to this post.

Not because I’m trying to assure myself of my dashing looks, but because I want to urge all of us to make it a point of duty to eliminate negativity from our lives, especially in the form of partners/spouses/people we hold dear to our heart whose utterances we’ll take a tad more seriously than others.

Whether we like it or not ‘uwaezuruoke’. That’s an Igbo saying that means ‘one person cannot have it all’. So you might be tall but with feet that ensure your shoes have to be custom-made, may be slim but ugly, pretty but chubby, wealthy but insecure, or (over)confident but poorer than a church rat. My point? No one has it all.

Back to beauty. There’s nothing worse than associating with people whose favorite time of day is when they’re putting you down. Regardless of how thick you think your skin is, at some point the negativity will penetrate and you’ll begin to believe horrible lies from horrible people. People who shoot down your ideas, make a mockery of your efforts, and constantly make you feel worthless shouldn’t be a part of your 2012. You deserve better. If you didn’t you wouldn’t be here.

You are beautiful. You are. Regardless of your imperfections or flaws, there’s the part of everyone that is beautiful. Be proud of it. No one has the right to take your weaknesses and bash you with them. Criticize constructively yes, condemnation? Objection my lord!

Let’s be reasonable though. Have you identified something you’d rather live without? A trait, character flaw, short coming of sorts? Be sensible. Seek help. Want to achieve something this year? Put your money/actions where your mouth is. Pray to God for help. Don’t delude yourself by saying ‘the Fairy GodSister said I’m beautiful’, work at it.  But for God’s sake don’t let anyone beat you up about it. Agreed?

January’s almost over (it’s amazing how January always flies by) and I urge us to run through the remaining months of the year confident of our beauty both on the inside and out. Without being pig-headed, I’ll end this with ‘ beauty is in the eye of the beholder, it’s their fault/loss they can’t see yours’ – FGS.

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Comments
  1. Tayo says:

    This is an answer to a long time heartful question. Thanks Chioma for writing this. You such a fine writer.

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  2. 9jamom says:

    Very beautiful piece – hope to one day share this with my kids once they’re old enough…Love this piece! Had to come back to it again today and comment, despite my Twitter comment – my fave line is:

    Regardless of how thick you think your skin is, at some point the negativity will penetrate and you’ll begin to believe horrible lies from horrible people.

    It is so true as even the most optimistic will cave in under ongoing negative criticism eventually. Very beautiful piece – hope to one day share this with my kids once they’re old enough…

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  3. Iyke O says:

    This will be like a shield against those little doubts that sometimes creeps into our subconscious. However we are good handwork of God that He fearfully and wonderfully made after his likeness..So ain’t we Beautiful, comm’on you are Beautiful & I am Handsome. *Smiles*

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  4. Soul Sista says:

    I am beautiful! Yes I am!

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