“Your friend is your need answered” – a surprise appearance on the #31days31writers project!

Posted: December 30, 2013 in 31Days31Writers, A post a day
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I met Mr Ekpo in May 2012, when I worked as the social media consultant for NERC as they implemented the MYTO 2 (price increase in simple English abeg). It was my second ever interaction with bureaucracy as personified by government, sigh. I remember having to explain what exactly social media could/would achieve for the organization so many times I could recite it in my sleep, but it was worth it when things started to change!

I infected some of the principal officers at the commission with the social media bug, and it is a thing of personal pride that Elecoblogs exists.

When I first toyed with the idea of asking Mr Ekpo to grace my blog for this #31days31writers project, I worried it would mete a ‘familiarity breeding contempt’ kind of reply. So you can imagine my excitement when between an introduction to another young person to provide a service, I mentioned it, and he replied, ‘sure, what is it about’? And voila!

It is my honor to present Mr Eyo Ekpo’s submission for my #31days31writers project!

My name is Eyo O. Ekpo, Nigerian, working with the Nigerian Electricity Regulatory Commission (NERC) in Abuja. There, I lead the Market Competition and Rates (MCR) Division. I’m also a newbie blogger, on electricity (of all things), at Elecoblogs. I’m planning to be 48 in June (can’t wait to be 50 and see what the fuss is all about) and have fended for myself since I became a lawyer on 22nd October 1987.

My Lessons Learned (or, Perhaps, Re-Learned)

I sit here in the garden at home in Calabar and ask: “What do I say to readers whose average age is less than 35? I have no common ground with them. I dislike their music, their loud voices, their hurry-hurry, their dressing. I dislike everything about them!!” Then, I say to myself: “But you do know quite a few fantastic young people o”. The list runs through my head and…it just keeps growing. From my two out-of-this-world daughters, 20 and 16, to the bright young guys and girls of NERC, to @ChiomaChuka, my Media Adviser, who opened up for me a new world, social media, of which I was blissfully ignorant, on to the irrepressible people I’ve met and conversed with in that youthful, vibrant and colourful world.

I’ve re-learnt a lesson as old as time. I am you and you are me and the river just keeps flowing. Time is timeless. It stands still. In order to be alive in it, we are the ones who must keep moving. Stand still and die. Looks indeed are deceptive. During the year, I looked more closely and saw that the youth of today are me of yesterday, not even as good. The same all-embracing fire of idealism, expectation and desire for progress that I had in October 1987. Now, my biggest desire is not to become one of those masquerades that have dedicated themselves to killing that fire.

My Gratitude

Kahlil Gibran, for whom my 8-year old boy is named, said about Friendship in his timeless magnum opus, ‘The Prophet’: “Your friend is your need answered.” I am eternally grateful for the blessing of friendship; and grateful to my friends who have provided all I have ever needed. Three of them, two female and one male. Don’t ask and I won’t tell, except to say that one of them is my dearly beloved wifey, Oluranti.

2013, in spite of its daily anxieties and worries, was signposted along the way with a few happy events that served, at just the right moments, to boost a flagging momentum. It has also proved to be a year in which were validated, reinforced and sometimes learnt anew, many of the lessons from 26 years of a multifaceted professional career. Lessons of life. Hard work, character, ethics, paying what is due, the constant striving to learn, perfection never having upper limits, leadership and people management. Above all, lessons about responsibility, a word deep with meaning.

And…My Futile Quest for A Time Machine

If I could go back, what would I do differently. I hurt two people I love dearly. We live in the present and I can’t go back but I can make amends, which, thankfully, they have allowed me to do.

I am most certainly a very fortunate pilgrim. I couldn’t be more thankful for the experiences that life has brought me in 2013. As the year ends, I look forward to 2014 with eagerness for a year that would be filled with activity, even more beneficial to all around me than in 2013.

Thank you Sir!

Thank you Sir!

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Comments
  1. E' says:

    Well spoken. Like a true elder.
    I loved this.
    🙂
    My friends are prayers answered.
    Oh the making amends too I can relate with. Thank God for second chances
    E’

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  2. First of all,he is a lawyer, called to bar before I was even born, woah!
    And his words rang so true,reminds of the fact that we indeed get wiser with age and also reminded me of the reason why I love to hear from people more advanced that I am. I was all of blessed with this entry.
    This resounded so deeply “i’ve re-learnt a lesson as old as time. I
    am you and you are me and the river
    just keeps flowing. Time is timeless. It
    stands still. In order to be alive in it,
    we are the ones who must keep
    moving. Stand still and die.”
    Thank you sir.

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  3. Nnedimma says:

    *smiles* Thank you, sir. Thank you, FGS.

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  4. Chika says:

    “STAND STILL AND DIE” this one is quite deep; reminds me of the reason for being here in the first place, we must strive to be relevant in a world that moves faster than a blink. By all means we must keep moving.

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  5. LYLawal says:

    1. You forgot to add @eyooekpo is his twitter addy.
    2. I’m not sure I’ve met a better motivator (also read: Mentor) in this streets as Eyo. One thing I’m grateful to this government for the ‘gift’ of Eyo at NERC.
    3. I cant recall you (Chioma) at NERC. But 2012 had all sorts of strange faces…
    4. I’m really impressed by your blog. I will def subscribe… Kudos!

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    • Hello Lawal! I didn’t mention it but there’s a live link to it! Yes he’s a wonderful mentor to as well, and I truly consider my four short months at NERC as a blessing indeed.
      Thank you for the kind comments on my blog, and you’re more than welcome to subscribe!
      Take care!

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  7. There is something incredibly humbling about this post. While youth is something to relish (who want die? lol), there is something golden about age. He is aging gracefully and his seams are bursting with wisdom oo. I better go make amends now! Lol 😀

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    • Definitely! I think that somehow, the older people I invited to contribute to this project distinguished themselves from us younger folk from the things they focused on, and the things they learned. Very interesting…
      Yes go and make amends o! With whoever, however!

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  8. kayda1 says:

    *silence*. The boss has spoken. Will definitely carry this around …’stand still and die’

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  9. kayda1 says:

    @worshipandswag, I concur absolutely!!

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