Posts Tagged ‘Humour’

Just did a short form post of this on Facebook but the matter hasn’t fully left my spirit so I thought I would come here and elaborate a little bit. I’m talking about advocacy and how some people believe (obviously erroneously) that they have a right to your beliefs and consequently social media posts.

So, someone posts about something and instead of identifying with it and moving on, or disagreeing with it and moving on, you come with, “but you did not talk about XYZ.”

For starters, this is absolute nonsense. I have very little patience for it. Nigeria is beset with so many issues everyone should be speaking about stuff, and all the time too!

Like, who has the register for what people should speak up about? Who made anyone the keeper of advocacy topics? And how does speaking (or not speaking) about one issue take away my right to speak about something else?

I am one person. I am somebody, but I am not everybody. The issues that affect me or I’m passionate about might not be the ones that awaken your activist bones. That‘s fine. The issues bothering me today might bother you tomorrow, and vice versa. That’s fine too.

This entitlement to the content people post on their personal social media profiles is silly, and the reason why Nigeria is what it is today. We talk about social media giving us a voice, yet refuse the individuality and ripple effect it affords us when we speak up. So confusing.

So we consciously or unconsciously ‘select’ people who should somehow know what we’re interested in, and talk about only those things. Otherwise, we heckle them. We outsource our civic duties and responsibilities to a select few, then cry when the monsters we’ve bred come of age. Sigh.

I read about a person who started #DistractionFreeFridays with a friend to get people to commit to driving without their devices on Fridays. We’ve seen hashtags like #SaveBagega, #NotTooYoungToRunBill, #CommonWealth4Peace, even #BBNaija. Do we tell one set of people to stop using the internet because we don’t subscribe to their hashtag? No. Live and let live. Advocate and let others do so.

You want to talk about female genital mutilation? Do it. Child marriage? Already. ‘Grasscutters’ and the other aberrations going on in the North East? Make it louder for those in the back. Audu Maikori and Elrufai’s sudden preoccupation with him? Go for it.

Whatever you want attention drawn to, start it. Gather information, and share it in ways that will resonate with people. Create a plan detailing what message you want to get out, who your target is, and what you want them to do when they’re aware of your messaging. Craft your messages in simple language, think about graphics if you can (the diversity of content is great and images are awesome as far as shareability is concerned). Sell your idea to your friends and get them to put it out for you at times when you know your audience is online, and keep posting/publishing. As it resonates with people, they’ll like, share, repost, retweet, whatever. And hopefully, they’ll take the commensurate offline action.

Here’s to your success, and leaving others to use their social media the way they want to.

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Sometimes we plan things and they don’t go as we plan – fact of life. Other times we don’t plan things, and they happen – another fact of life. Any other variations to this statement? Don’t think so. 

I’ve got five voices to grace the blog this month, and I’m most grateful to them for taking the time to chronicle their year for you, my glorious readers. Meanwhile, 2017 has to be better, I must write more! Gosh! I miss it!

We kick off the series with a personal friend of mine, Ehimen. He is dependable, a lover of God, and has the most gorgeous wife! God bless you for writing in Mr Wordsmith!

Appreciating the value of Today while it is today

Many men would rather wear a luxury timepiece on their wrists than wear their emotions on their sleeves, especially if those emotions are powerful enough to make them cry. Well, I’ve learned to do both and as someone jocularly noted recently, look well put together while at it. He was referring to the fact that I cried at my own wedding –an occasion for which I was suitably attired, complete with a finely-crafted wristwatch peeking out from under the sleeve of my tuxedo- but I somehow managed to avoid the pictures of me crying going viral, unlike another gentleman who also got married in 2016 and cried like a baby at his wedding.

Why did I cry at my wedding? It wasn’t only because of the profundity of starting to learn the awesome mystery that marriage is, nor was it only because my wife is the walking exemplar of the word “beautiful”. It wasn’t only because my entire lifetime flashed before me in an instant and I was grateful to GOD for the many times He saved me from death. It wasn’t only because I remembered my father who died when I was nine-and-a-half years old and left me in a world where I was told (a bit too early) to “be a man for your younger ones”. Those are small contributors to the whole truth. The whole truth is at that time, my body, soul and spirit sent commands to my eyes to produce tears and I didn’t know how to not yield. I am human.

Men who shy away from being emotional often miss the privilege of having Father Time and Mother Nature tell them what time it is better than any man-made time-telling device ever can. I received a sobering reminder of this truth just a few days before I composed this. The routine of everyday life had stealthily crept into my marriage. You see, “the two shall become one” promise of marriage doesn’t happen instantaneously and can take gruelling work. My wife and I were just sheathing our swords from killing a giant marauder so the lovey-dovey “I love you’s” weren’t being exchanged with the gusto we started off with. I hadn’t done anything major to honour her in public in a long time, which was counter to what I’d learned that good women deserve. I subscribe to this truth King Lemuel’s mother told him about virtuous women:

“Her husband brags about her and says, “There are many good women but you are the best!” Give her the reward she deserves. Praise her in public for what she has done.”

A few nights ago I tiptoed out of bed and went to post on Facebook in appreciation of my wife. If I pulled it off right, it would almost be the equivalent of sending her flowers at work. By the time she saw my post, it was past noon and I wasn’t even at home. However, her appreciation of my romantic effort was muted as we found out that morning that someone very close to us had just died. While my wife was in tears and my mouth was agape in shock, I realized that at the very same time that I was putting up a picture and celebrating my wife on Facebook, we lost someone dear who we’d been procrastinating calling to appreciate. In fact, as I was rifling through the pictures on my computer to pick the one I eventually used to celebrate my wife, I saw some pictures of the now deceased and was contemplating sending them to her, not knowing she had just left this world. Every like and comment we got on that Facebook post was a jarring reminder to love each other and make the most of every moment as we’re not promised the next.

So to those who hide their love and appreciation of others while waiting for the perfect time, this is your wake-up call. Don’t just add this lesson to your “New Year Resolutions for 2017” list; start it now! One thing I’m deliberately doing right now is pouring out my heart into all that I do so that I can be the best version of myself while I have the time to do so. I’m working on a project aimed at reducing the impact of hate speech online and offline in Nigeria so that as a nation we don’t repeat the mistakes that led to the horrific genocide that happened in Rwanda in 1994. That’s my way of showing love to people and helping them stay alive to love others.

A sad thing it is when the sun sets on our lives and those of our loved ones because we failed to seize the day while it was day.

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Thank you for writing in Peter, here’s to a fabulous holiday and an ever greater new year!

 

Pinch of humor people!! Happy New Year!! Don’t even look at me like the greeting is coming late, save the wrinkling of your noses for the people who will tell you Happy New Year in June! Accept my own with open arms, so you can….. (I don’t know jor, put anything you want there).

We had a good last year with the Pinch of Humor category, and I’ll always be grateful to Mr Mobility; the inspiration to start this came after I chatted with him and he encouraged me through a tough patch I was in. Thank you Bro!

This year? NO breaks, no missed weeks, nothing!! We have to keep this growing from strength to strength this year (or from laugh to laugh, lol). Let’s get to it already!

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=)) save me 4rm dis akpos guy abeg

These ‘akpos’ jokes are to die for!

 

Spot the Blenderlette

Is it that serious? Really? Lol!

 

Lol. Wat pple come up with these days

Psalm 23…. Is there anything we won’t play with?

That’s it good people! Enjoy the rest of your weekend, and have a brilliant week ahead. And before I forget, Happy New Year again!

 

This actually happens?

 

 

I laughed so hard I had tears in my eyes!! Saw this one on the @i_blend group!

Hello!!! Welcome to the third week, sharing love, laughter, and reminding ourselves that life is too short to spend every minute of it complaining. Live a little, take some time to chill, to smile, to be grateful for the fact that despite the challenges before you now, it could have been worse, and there are people who are worse off!

This is simple; look, enjoy, and share with a friend! If you’d like to see your pictures featured here, email them to dfairygodsister@yahoo.com. Enjoy the rest of it, a pinch of humor!

Who speaks Hausa? Interpretation please, after you’ve cleaned your brain of course!!! Also gotten off the @i_blend group..

Funny but very true….be safe!

Life ain’t fair!!

Guys is this true? Prove this person wrong jor!!!

That’s it for this week!!! Spread the love, share the joy, and enjoy a beautiful weekend!!

Hello you!!

Beautiful Saturday morning, and am I grateful it’s not raining!!! It’s rained every day since Tuesday, and by last night I was pretty fed up with it! Talk about humans never being satisfied; when it doesn’t rain now we’ll be holding vigils to ‘open the heavens’, now I’m complaining that it’s too much! God forgive me!

Anyone who knows me knows I love a good laugh, it’s the fastest way to get through to me. Give me something to laugh/smile about, and you’d be well on your way to securing my friendship! I think that came from my dad, one of the funniest people I know. Never misses an opportunity to make us laugh, even in difficult times; it’s one of the things I miss about him, his rich laughter and the way he’ll clap his hand on his knee when he’s really amused! I love you daddy!

Ok, so on Twitter last night I said I would be starting a new category on the blog today, a permanent feature published every Saturday at noon. This is it, the ‘pinch of humor‘ category!! The inspiration for this? Recently I was disgusted with the way a friend handled an incident and so I put as my BBM status something I wouldn’t want to print here! Another friend saw the update and asked what was wrong, I explained to him and he cheered me up. I’m grateful for him because apart from working very hard that evening to cheer me up (believe me I was smoking from the ears), he reminded me of a very important fact: Life is too short to wallow in anger/misery!

After we got done talking, I looked through some of the pictures I’ve been storing on my phone for the simple fact that they amused me, and I gave myself a good laugh! And then I decided that every Saturday, I would share some of those pictures so I can give others a laugh as well!

That’s it, the gist behind this category; among other things I want you to be able to come on here to chill, put your worries aside for a bit, and just have a laugh because sweetheart, life is too short to be worked up every day!! That’s the reason why ‘pinch of humor’ will come only on Saturdays too, so you’re not in work mode or anything. Doesn’t mean you can’t revisit the page during the week though, please feel free! And don’t be stingy, share with your friends and family!

The best part of this new category is you have a say on what pictures go up, so if something made you smile, share the love!! Send an email to dfairygodsister@yahoo.com and I’ll credit you when I put the pictures up! All I ask is they be rated ‘family’, nothing x-rated or political. Agreed? Good stuff!

That’s it then, enjoy the pictures for this week!

Arsenal fans forgive me o!!! I think I saw this picture last year, when Arsenal received one major whupping like that....

This is my personal favorite! I should adopt this answer for the self-proclaimed monitors of my weight!

That’s it, a pinch of humor for the day! Which was your favorite? Send me yours!